Owning My Space: How I Stopped Feeling Like an Impostor and Started Living Authentically
For as long as I can remember, I carried a quiet, heavy belief that I simply wasn’t enough. Not clever enough. Not experienced enough. Not anything enough.
And the strangest part? Other people saw me differently.
Professionally, colleagues came to me for answers. They trusted my judgment. They valued my contributions. Outwardly, I looked like someone who knew what she was doing—someone who belonged.
Inside, though, it felt like a different story.
The Silent Weight Women Carry
Many women know this feeling intimately. We can be skilled, capable, qualified—even brilliant—and still feel like frauds waiting to be exposed. We tell ourselves that others must know more, understand more, or deserve more.
Even when we excel, we downplay it.
Even when we lead, we question our right to be there.
Even when people look to us, we look away, convinced we’re somehow the mistake in the room.
That was me. Even in moments where I delivered exactly what was needed—often more than what was expected—I still felt like the impostor with the shaky foundation.
The Turning Point I Never Saw Coming
Everything shifted when I discovered Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP).
I didn’t go in expecting miracles. To be honest, I wasn’t sure what to expect. But something in me was ready—ready to stop feeling so small, ready to let go of the constant self-doubt, ready to understand why I believed I wasn’t enough.
Then came Timeline Therapy, and that was the transformation I didn’t realise I’d been waiting for.
For the first time, I was able to see the limiting beliefs and old emotional patterns I’d been carrying since childhood. Not just see them—release them. Those old messages that had been running the show for so many years finally lost their power.
From Impostor to Owner
The difference this made to my life is immeasurable.
- I no longer shrink myself.
- I no longer assume everyone else knows more than me.
- I no longer hand over my power before I even walk into the room.
- I own my space.
- I own my position.
- I own me.
And it feels like breathing clean air after years of fog.
Reframing My Words, Rewiring My Thoughts
One of the biggest revelations was understanding how deeply our internal language shapes our lives. The quiet comments we whisper to ourselves… The automatic beliefs we never question… The emotional patterns we think are “just the way we are”…
These run our daily decisions, our confidence, our sense of self. Once I learned to reframe my internal dialogue—truly reframe it—my thoughts followed. My habits followed. My life followed.
And that’s when I knew:
- This wasn’t something I wanted to keep to myself.
- This was something I wanted to share.
Why I Now Do This for Others
When you experience a transformation like this—when you step out of the shadow of self-doubt and into the truth of who you are—you want others to feel that too.
Especially women who’ve spent years believing they’re not enough. Especially those who are already brilliant but can’t see it. Especially those who deserve to feel strong, capable, and worthy in every room they enter.
Helping others remove limiting beliefs, clear negative emotions, and rewrite their internal narratives has become part of my purpose. It’s not just work—it’s deeply meaningful, life-changing work. And I couldn’t recommend it enough because I know exactly what it feels like to be on the other side of it.
To the Woman Reading This Who Still Feels Like an Impostor…
You’re not alone. You’re not a fraud. And you’re certainly not “not enough.”
You’re simply carrying beliefs that were never yours to begin with. And you deserve the chance to let them go.
If I can step into the freedom of owning who I am—personally and professionally—then you can too. And when you do, it will feel like a breath of fresh air you didn’t realise you’d been holding out for.
20th February 2026