He Was So Angry

This morning, on a dog walk I’ve been doing for years, I got told off by the farmer.

He met me with what seemed like aggression. In that moment, I had a choice:

• Do I meet him at his emotional level?
• Or do I defuse the situation?

I chose to de-escalate — and it worked.

His ‘aggression’ wasn’t really anger.

His ‘aggression’ was frustration.

His ‘aggression’ was protecting his property.

His ‘aggression’ was a reaction to feeling unheard and disrespected over time.

Once he calmed, we had a genuinely lovely conversation. I listened, understood his perspective, and he was open to mine.

A true win/win.

We ended our chat with smiles — calm, connected, and understanding each other a little better.

The reminder?

We never really know what’s happening in someone else’s world. I didn’t take his aggression personally — because it wasn’t. He doesn’t know me, so how could it be personal?

Communication is one of the most powerful tools we have. When we choose to listen rather than react, we create space for empathy, understanding, and growth.

13th November 2025